When I used to invite people into my home, I made up a hundred excuses about why it was the way it was.
“This furniture is from my college days… it’s not staying this way… you know how it is with young children.”
“I haven’t done anything with the house because I’ve been so busy…”
But the truth of the matter was, I hadn’t placed any effort on my home because I was too busy. Too busy figuring out who I was, what I enjoyed and what made me feel as though there was cohesiveness between my inner being and my outer environment. I had spent a lot of time on the inner and zero time on the outer.
I spent the month of December and the early part of January investing in my home environment.
As I was going through this process, I dug deeper into what made me feel good.
I love when things are beautiful and, as it turns out, beautiful for me is floral patterns, bright colours and delicate floral arrangements. I truly love the essence of the divine feminine and having a reflection of that femininity in my home is important for me to maintain that inside of my body.
I feel comfortable when I’m surrounded by comfy, warm things so I added cushions that are made out of a sweater material, I added throws and I put out a little bowl of thin mints (because a little chocolate in the living room is a must-have for me).
I feel joyful when I have music playing that I can sing along to so I bought a Bose SoundLink III (Bluetooth enabled speaker) and set it up in the living room (and haven’t stopped playing music since). This allows me to relax into the main room of my house and, this happens on a daily basis, have epic dance parties with my daughter.
I feel serene when things in my home feel organized or, at the very least, have flow. I organized and cleaned up some of the messy areas in the house and bought shelves and organizers to make that space flow with more ease. Now that everything has a place, I feel like I can access the things I love much easier.
I feel productive when my office space is energized and comfortable. I invested in a Herman Miller chair and I bought a file organizer so I could organize my paperwork and receipts to make tax time easier.
Why Cohesiveness in the Inner and Outer is Important
Had you asked me a year ago if investing in your home was important, I would have said no. In fact, it would not have likely made my top ten list of life priorities. However, I was going through some chaotic and big, life-changing things (a separation, for example) and my home reflected that. It was messy, chaotic, unorganized and a bit depressing. My outer reflected that back to the inner and vice versa.
“The light is what guides you home, the warmth is what keeps you there.” — Ellie Rodriguez
Since I’ve made the changes in my home and it more closely reflects how I feel on the inside, I feel in alignment. I feel happy. Blissful. Energized. When I’m curled up now in my living room with a throw blanket and the fireplace on with the smell of roses nearby, I feel fulfilled.
I’ve learned, through this process, that cohesiveness in our environment is crucial to feeling how you want to feel and maintaining that level of feeling. If your space doesn’t reflect who you are, how can you expect to feel how you want to feel when you’re in that environment? Since most of us spend a lot of time in our home, this is vital to our well-being.
An Invitation Into My Space
I wanted to end this post with a little tour of some of the things that are now in my space that make me feel good. You can also check out my Instagram to see more photos from my progress this month.
I’d also love to hear from you… how do you feel your environment plays a part in your overall well-being and what have you done, if anything, to make it feel the way you want it to feel? Even better, if you have photos of your space online, drop a link in the comments. I’d love to tour your home sanctuary!