I was on a coaching call with one of my dear clients, someone I’ve known for a very, very long time, and they asked me the following questions: “What if I don’t have any goals right now? What if I have no idea what I’m doing or what I’m supposed to do or where I’m supposed to be heading?”
As my client spoke those words, I smiled into the phone. I took pause for a moment and responded to her with only a few words to start:
Perhaps this is the Universe’s way of telling you to rest.
Flash back to a moment earlier in the week where I found myself immersed in a conversation about goal-setting and wish lists and bucket lists and all of the other ways in which we track our desires. Desires that, once fulfilled, we check off like achievements in a video game.
As the conversation led to rhyming off our own proverbial checklists, I found myself without a list but instead, a question: “Is it weird that I don’t have anything that I want right now?”
It’s not that I have everything right now that I may ever want in this life but rather that I don’t have any lofty goals that I am particularly working toward. No big vacations, no off the charts life goals and no material desires. I’m very much in a state of being and presence. There is a lot swirling around me and a lot of change about to happen in the coming months but I’m not push, push, pushing toward the future.
I’m staying still and watching it unfold around me.
As I recalled the goal-setting conversation to my client, I explained to her that often, we feel pressured to set goals and have a plan and be driven and when those things are not in place, we can often feel dysfunctional. A bit disoriented. Lost, even.
What if we did a re-frame on our relationship to our drive and ambition? What if instead of always feeling like we need to have it figured out, labeled, characterized, described and decided, we simply relaxed into what is?
And, what if we took it a step further and looked at the moment in time when we feel lost or confused as a much-needed, well-deserved break? A break from the pressure of lofty goals, a break from the stress of the overwhelming to-do list and a break from having to be so put together all the time.
When you get to a space of not knowing what to do, breathe. Relax. Enjoy the downtime. Be present. Look around you and soak up things like the colour of the grass or the change in the season or the way your house smells when you walk in the door.
I promise you that the Universe is merely giving you time to rest because, darling, what is coming for you is big… bigger than you can fathom and you need to be ready and well-rested for it.